We all know that women are the diamond of our time, and the simply truth is that flirting and touching a girl is all part of the grand plan of impressing her and making her fall in love with you.
One thing is certain, and that is, touching a girl or flirting with her should come effortlessly when you’re out with her, be it on a first date or the 10th date with her.
One of the best way a guy can use to warm a girl up, is easy. However, touching a girl on a first date is by using a two part strategy. Of course, you can skip one part if you want to, it totally depends on how you view this. But using the two part date approach can help you build the momentum for something more than just a touch.
Table of Contents
- 1 Part one To Touching a Girl
- 2 Make Her Feel at Home with Good Conversations
- 3 Discreet Accidental Touches
- 4 Making Good Use of Your Hands
- 5 Don’t Molest Her with Your Touches
- 6 The second part of the strategy – After the restaurant
- 7 Walking out of the Restaurant
- 8 Taking a Walk Together
- 9 Touch Her Again
- 10 Talking Softly in Low Tone
- 11 Take a Bold Step
Part one To Touching a Girl
Plan a dinner date, this is one of the most important part in moving your relationship forward. The first step, is to plan a dinner date, and follow it up with a walk or another stop for dessert.
Take note that when you plan a dinner date, this gives you ample opportunities in getting to know her personally, and also gives you, enough time to warm her up and take a few chances without ever seeming desperate.
The best chance you’ll get, is by choosing a restaurant where you can sit next to her, at right angles. Avoid restaurants where you have to sit facing each other unless you have no choice. When seeking out a restaurants, please ensure you go for a romantic setting with small cozy tables, this is the perfect place for a date. It can help you touch her easily, and get the right buzz going. At the restaurant, don’t put all your focus on your smartphone, rather, try having a pleasant conversation and don’t try thinking of ways to touch her just yet.
Instead, just lean in occasionally and get closer to her while talking about something. At times, soften your tone to a whisper so she’s forced to come closer to hear you. This is one secret most guys are not aware of.
Make Her Feel at Home with Good Conversations
There’s nothing better than making a wonderful happy, flirty conversations to ensure that she has a great time with you, let everything be natural and also be cool with yourself, but most importantly, be confident. A recent survey shows that women loves confident guys. During the middle of the conversation, place your hand on the table “absentmindedly”. Placing your hand on the table lets her know that you’re reaching out to her. If she does the same, she’s obviously excited for a hopeful touch too! That is the go!
Discreet Accidental Touches
Careful touches can be a huge §εxυal turn on if you do it the right way. When out on a date, in as much as it’s romantic, you can discreetly slide your feet towards her very slowly until you almost touch her feet.
When I say careful, you should carefully getting as close to her as possible without actually touching her or making her feel awkward or make her feel uncomfortable. And if your foot is able to make the slightest of body contact with her feet, please ensure you stop squirming and see if she takes her foot back.
As an educated and descent guy, you should know that the smallest of bodily contact is always more exciting than an obvious move.
Making Good Use of Your Hands
Once you’re halfway through the date, and it’s getting time to go, you must have find out by now, if she enjoys your touches and the happy conversations, or she is plainly uncomfortable with it. If she is okay with your discreet touch, then you can choose to touch her now and then without getting too excited about it.
You should place your hands on her palm while emphasizing a point or complimenting her, and don’t forget, ALWAYS compliment her genuinely and from your heart, girls always know when a guy is complimenting her truthfully or falsely. It makes everything about the date so much more genuine and intimate.
Don’t Molest Her with Your Touches
This is very important. Just because you have an excuse to touch her doesn’t mean you should constantly touch her when out on a date, honestly, you’ll look like a creep, and she will look for the slightest excuse to go home. Bro, that will be the first and last time, she will go out with you.
You should endeavor to touch her a few times on the date, but don’t ever overdo it brother, especially if she’s not reciprocating your move. You should try building up the §εxυal tension with the little discreet touches, and it’ll do all the magic.
But here’s the golden rule. Just touch her a few times, she’ll crave for your touch. Touch her too often, and she’ll think you’re a creepy pervert whose her worst nightmare.
The second part of the strategy – After the restaurant
This is the part where you have to be careful about everything. If you’ve built enough chemistry in the restaurant, she’d be eager to spend a while with you. Take a walk with her or plan a drive to another restaurant for dessert.
Walking out of the Restaurant
You must have probably know by now, that girls are quite sensitive to everything, including holding her hands, not holding her hands, etc.
Here’s the best part. As you walk out of the restaurant, allow her to lead ahead. And while you’re standing by her side, you should carefully place your hand on her back. It’s what a gentleman does, and she really shouldn’t mind it, except you took a child for a date. And hey, here’s another great excuse to actually touch her too!
Taking a Walk Together
When you guys are out of the restaurant, now is another ample opportunity to push your luck again. As you walk down to another restaurant or to your car, you should try coming closer to her and somewhere in the middle of a conversation, place your hand around her waist without making it seem like a big deal, and it’s not a big deal actually.
If she snuggles closer to you, yeah, two thumbs up bro, you absolutely did it! If she stiffens up or acts awkward, take your hand off her slowly like you didn’t realize that something awkward just happened, but be wise and know your limitation.
You should take note, that when you actually acknowledged an awkward moment, the truth is that it ONLY serves to makes things more awkward onward. But if you work on the attraction you guys had in the restaurant, there’s no way she’d move away from you!
Touch Her Again
This is another time you should act gentlemanly. As you get into the car, hold her palms or touch her shoulder, and tell her you had a great time with her. Use the excuse of touching her shoulder to compliment her again, either about her soft skin or the smooth fabric of her dress, or how gorgeous and beautiful she is.
Tell her how soft it feels, but never rush this, because you really need to make her feel comfortable to your touch and especially with you.
Talking Softly in Low Tone
Here is where newbies always show they haven’t been out on a date yet. When you’re with a girl, you should try talking softly, girls dislike guys in high tone, who scream about everything. Take note, you’re out on a dating with her, and not the entire restaurant.
You should probably not start your car just yet. Talk to her. And talk softly in your deep manly voice! Tell her about how wonderful a time you’re having with her, and proceed to discuss with her, all the other nice things in the world. Stall the moment and build the love.
Take a Bold Step
Gently stroke her cheek once and rest your hand on her cheek. This gives her the signal that you’re dumbfounded by her beauty. However, as your hands are on her cheeks, tell her you’re really happy to have met her. Do it only if you feel like the moment’s right, when you feel like the connection is there.
If she reciprocates by coming closer or touching you back, what are you waiting for? You should go for a Kiss on her cheek. Or you can act a little drama and go closer and wait for a kiss. On the other hand, if she blushes and doesn’t really do anything back after you touch her cheek, gently take your hand away and start the car. It’s time for dessert and a second round of warming her up all over again, making her feel comfortable with you.
It doesn’t matter if she reciprocates after dinner or after dessert anyways. But take note that you first priority should be to build the romantic connection, once the connection is there, she’ll warm up for you. But always remember to never overdo your flirty touches, especially if she doesn’t reciprocate your moves.